Identifying and presenting as a woman or girl is not only complex and ambiguous, it’s important to consider intersecting identities, racial, national, cultural, and socioeconomic backgrounds, and the deeply varied experiences of those who identify as women and girls in 2023. It’s essential to keep looking for the narratives of women and girls from around the globe.

Human Rights Watch recently released the annual World Report outlining instances of discrimination, infringement of human rights and humanitarian crises in nearly 100 countries. The report highlights devastating atrocities and historic contexts many endured– particularly the violence and trauma inflicted upon women and girls and those who are transgender.

Myanmar’s military and police have physically and sexually abused women and individuals who identify as LGBTQ while in custody.

Amidst turmoil in the Tigray region of Ethiopia, there have been reports of fleeing women and girls getting abducted.

The Taliban’s takeover in Afghanistan resulted in their prohibiting women and girls from secondary and tertiary education. In Iran, the death of Mahsa Amini in the custody of “morality police” sparked outrage and subsequent protests over women’s restrictions to autonomy and basic human rights.

In Australia, an indigenous woman who was incarcerated died in her cell after crying for help for hours.

Access to the medical procedure of abortion in the United States has been restricted due to the overturning of Roe v. Wade, adding to the existing limitations Black women in particular have to proper healthcare.

Additionally in the US, a slew of transphobic bills in states including Arkansas, South Dakota, South Carolina, Alabama and more, were put forth in a number of states restricting access to healthcare and the rights of transgender adults and youth.

A new report from Pew Research shows that 55% of Black LGBTQ adults in the US “say the city or area they live in is not a good place for transgender people, and 39% say their areas are not safe for lesbian, gay or bisexual people.” Close to 80 % of Black LGBTQ adults “say they have experienced verbal insults or abuse” while 60% “have been threatened with violence.”

Women and girls, particularly those with additional marginalized social identities continue to face violence, trauma and injustice in every region of the planet. As a result, they are being displaced.

In the United States, as in many other countries, there is an influx of refugees looking for asylum who have been displaced from other countries in some cases due to the aforementioned injustices. Additionally, within their own countries, individuals who identify as LGBTQ are being internally displaced.

This means that in the U.S., our very neighbors have been uprooted from their homes and families. There are opportunities to welcome such families and help them transition to life in our cities, as well as learn from them and their various national, social, religious and linguistic cultures.

There are nine major refugee resettlement agencies in the United States with various local affiliates. These resettlement agencies need assistance, funding and political action. They also share stories from the voices of women, girls and others who are displaced, like these stories from Ukrainian refugees. Other organizations that work with such refugees share stories and triumphs from displaced people, such as Suzanne Akhras Sahloul, founder of Syrian Community Network in Chicago.

While at times women find commonalities in their struggles, joys, challenges and triumphs, they are not defined by them, nor the gender marker on original birth certificates. What is important are their unique stories; the billions of beautiful and tragic stories that need to be told, listened to, watched and re-shared while they define who they are.

As a cisgender white woman from one of the wealthiest nations in the world, I know that while I’ll never truly understand all the stories shared by women and girls, it is imperative to seek out and listen to as many unique and diverse stories as possible.

The experiences of being women and girls are difficult, joyful, intercultural, and multitudinous. They need to be heard.

Speaking nine languages, Belgian forward Romelu Lukaku might be noted as the polyglot player who speaks the most languages of any of the players. Imagine the conflict possible as players of different nations, cultures and languages contest a foul play or try to argue with the referee. The same can be true in real life in homes, workplaces and communities where many languages and cultures co-exist.

Sports, religion and politics are divisive topics of conversation among people who pledge loyalty to one or a few of these institutions. Given the widely watched World Cup competition, recent highly contentious midterm elections and runoffs in the United States, and upcoming end of the year religious holidays, finding an appropriate topic of conversation with a stranger or loved one can be difficult.

Having these conversations in one’s native language is difficult enough, but trying to conduct the conversation in an additional language is even more challenging.

For some people, avoidance of volatile topics is key. One of the reasons that sports, religion and politics are so divisive is that they connect to the personal, to values, to loyalty and to cultural communities.

Yet, avoiding the conversations altogether may not lead to deep personal connections and community strength.

As a language learner, former English teacher, and coordinator of global education, I observe how English is becoming a dominating language at a consequential speed. Reportedly, native speakers of English with no second language often don’t see the benefits of learning an additional language. Many monolingual English speakers neglect to learn the local language when English is becoming the language of business, trade and tourism.

However, learning a language not only allows one to converse with more people, the experience of studying languages is a way of opening up to multiple identities. Those multiple identities could connect with others’ multiple identities.

For instance, as a scholar of intercultural competence, even though I don’t keep up with soccer, I can appreciate the way that the sport is one of the most accessible and low-cost ways to bond with friends and connect with people around the world.

When I studied Spanish in Costa Rica from 2010 to 2012 while teaching English to local Spanish speakers, I made sure to know at least a few famous soccer players as a point of conversation. As a teacher, it was a way to find common ground with many students to get the conversations going in class on topics other than those singularly in my personal interests.

However, I would be promoting not only a stereotype, but a reductive sense of culture to assume that all Costa Ricans love soccer. Indeed, I connected with many that shared my indifference toward professional sports.

I taught English at a language and cultural center in the Central Valley of Costa Rica for two years to adults of all levels of English proficiency and learned Spanish in an immersive format. Therefore, I started to learn what intercultural competence really meant and that it required more than just conjugating the extensive list of verbs in Spanish.

As a teacher I welcomed controversial topics into the classroom, but soon saw how that could shut down the conversation and detract from language learning.

Language learning can be uncomfortable or even anxiety provoking for many people. Yet, it’s still beneficial to an intercultural society. Speaking only one language not only limits social opportunities, but also creates an isolated experience for the monolingual English speaker who is limited in communicating and understanding others. Ultimately, this is not a helpful approach to our growing global community.   

Developing cultural skills like language and intercultural competencies such as self-reflection, empathy, curiosity, patience and living with uncertainty, are not only helpful skills, they are necessary for building a better society,  better community, and perhaps even a better sports arena.  

Years ago, I had the opportunity to present my incipient research at a university and delivered my speech in Spanish– my additional language– to a group of fellow Spanish speaking students. I typed out every sentence and had it checked by a native Spanish speaker.

During the impromptu Q & A session, one of the participants challenged an aspect of my research findings. I tried to explain that I wasn’t done with data collection and hadn’t started the in-depth analysis.

As my face reddened and the doubt started to creep in, I looked at my friend and Spanish teacher in the crowd. He spoke up, “This is her second language; she’s still working on the findings.”

My takeaway is that in the learning of additional languages, falling short of fluency, it is important to persist even in the face of doubt and mistakes.

Similarly, even if there is conflict with intercultural experiences, persistence, empathy and respect are critical.

After my presentation, I had lunch with a few of the students where a soccer game was on the TV screen at the café.

“Do you like soccer?” one student asked.

“No,” I said, “but I understand why so many people do.”